Chapter 8:

Important Concept: the very first sentence of this chapter discusses how important it is for children to have friends and relationships with their peers in order to succeed.

"... one of the most important tasks and valued accomplishments of childhood... the establishment of friendships and an acceptance among peers that frees children up to be themselves."

Important Chart:

Variables that influence children's peer relationships and friendships.

Chapter 9:

Important Concept:

Structuring is the management of time, space, and materials aimed at promoting children's social competence.

Important Concept:

Three reasons why there is structure in a child's physical environment:

1. structure in advance and consider how much time, space, and materials might be best.

2. structure on the spot to resolve problems as the arise.

3. structure to teach children how to make decisions themselves.

Chapter 10:

Important Chart:

Orientations to Self-Discipline

Important Chart:

Articulating the entire personal message.

The Four R's chart is an easy way to remember how to create a complete personal message for a child.